Retirement and Annuity Advisor Jennifer Lang
Prevent a Rift: Money Tips for Newlyweds
Updated: Feb 20, 2022
In a recent study, 88% of millennials admitted that financial decisions are a source of tension in their relationship with a spouse or partner. This could help explain why some experts say financial problems are the #1 reason marriages fail.1,2
Fortunately, couples may be able to head off many of the problems money can cause in a marriage.
10 Tips for Newly Married Couples
1. Communication—Couples should consider talking about their financial goals, memories, and habits because each may come into the marriage with fundamental differences in experiences and outlook that will drive their behaviors.
2. Set Goals—Setting goals establishes a common objective that both become committed to pursuing.
3. Create a Budget—A budget is an exercise for developing a spending and savings plan that is designed to reflect mutually agreed upon priorities.
4. Set the Foundation for Your Financial House—Identify assets and debts. Look to begin reducing debts while building your emergency fund.
5. Work Together—By sharing the financial decision-making, both spouses are vested in all choices, reducing the friction that can come from a single decision-maker.
6. Set a Minimum Threshold for Big Expenses—While possessing a level of individual spending latitude is reasonable, large expenditures should only be made with both spouses’ consent. Agree to what purchase amount should require a mutual decision.
7. Set Up Regular Meetings—Set aside a pre-determined time every two weeks or once a month to discuss finances. Talk about your budgeting, upcoming expenses and any changes in circumstances.
8. Update and Revise—As a newly married couple, you may need to update the beneficiaries on your accounts, reevaluate your insurance coverage, and revise (or create) your will.3
9. Love, Trust, and Honesty—Approach contentious subjects with care and understanding, be honest about money decisions you know your spouse might be upset with, and trust your spouse to be responsible about handling finances.
10. Consider Speaking with a Financial Advisor—A financial advisor may offer insights to help you work through the critical financial decisions that all married couples face.
1. AICPA.org, February 11, 2016. 2. Divorce.com, 2017. 3. When drafting a will, consider enlisting the help of a legal, tax, or financial professional who may be able to offer additional insight, especially if you have a large estate or complex family situation.